I think it’s safe to say that as little girls growing up, we sometimes struggled with our self worth or self-esteem. It’s so different for us girls growing up to become women. When we’re young, we often try to look like another or we dream of being one of the many models we idolized in magazines. We tugged with our weight, hair styles, clothing and it was a never-ending battle.
As older women, we trade the things we worried about as young girls for concerns about anti-aging, weak bones, varicose veins, gray hair and a host of other things.
In grade school, I was the tallest, biggest girl than everyone in my classes so seeing girls that were shorter than me, had smaller feet and could wear any kind of shoe made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. In high school, I’d compare my hair with other girls trying to make my hair look like theirs.
When I got to college, I collected many fashion and beauty magazines, compared my looks, my shape to the models there and tried to look like them and you know I was fast on my way to pure insanity!
All this really stemmed from having low self-esteem and not really knowing who I was. When I became a born-again Christian, it was growing closer to Christ that I stopped trying to be someone other than me.
I do think we women have the tendency to feel inadequate around other women whom we think are prettier, smarter, taller, shorter, more talented, etc., but God doesn’t want us caught up in all this madness.
I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, And that my soul knows very well. – Psalm 139:14 (NKJV)
It’s okay to get inspiration from others, I do that with regards to arts and crafts, but what’s more important is to become comfortable in our own skin. I had to learn to like myself just as I am and not to feel less or somehow not good enough next to another woman. It doesn’t matter if I’m not as good in something as someone else. We all have specific gifts that are absolutely unique. There can never be another person just like us.
There are things about each of us that we do well so we should really embrace those skills rather than base our purpose on trying to be something or someone we’re not.
The healthiest way I know to compare myself to another lady is only if she inspires me to be the best I can be, but, not by trying to be a copycat or an exact replica of her. Jesus made us all with our own unique characteristics, talents and gifts and He means for us to embrace and use them to expand His kingdom. He wants us to see our worth as He does. We are so unique that even our fingerprints are our own. And God knows everything about you.
But the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Do not fear therefore; you are of more value than many sparrows. Luke 12:7 (NKJV)
Nobody was born without a purpose. It’s our choice how we use what God gives us, but low self worth is certainly not what He wants us to struggle through life with.
Remember this, there’ll never be another person exactly like you to exist in the world…EVER.