Many women grow up as girls without knowing their own worth. I was one of them. And, I think my mother and my grandmother also grew up without a great self-image. In my case, I didn’t have an earthly father to tell me I was pretty or smart. So, growing up I had to find out who I was through magazines, so-called friends, and I guess fashion models. I wanted to be anything or anyone other than myself. I didn’t know who I was for many, many years.
God Defines Us.
When I got saved in 1987, I had a long road to come from. So many things Jesus had to change in me. One of the first things was I had to have a better feeling about myself. I can’t be like anyone other than myself and that should be good enough. Also, time is a great healer. As I got older, it wasn’t so important to me to be pretty on the outside. God wants us to focus much more on the inside anyway and that’s where He does His best work to transform us.
I had to learn that God define us. Our worth is in Him, all our gifts, talents, and looks. If I stopped focusing on trying to impress others and instead work on my inside characteristics, then they show up on the outside.
I love flowers. Using them as an example, no two petals are exactly alike even when they’re apart of the same flower. They have differences even if minor but they’re each beautiful in their own right.
We’re very much like flower petals, we may all be women with some of the same make-up, but our features, heritage, inner qualities are all different and unique. God intended it that way. He embraces our individualism and the way we think.
I’m not saying He wants us to remain in sin, no, when we come to Him broken needing a Savior, He takes us in the condition we come to Him but He begins the work of showing us who we really are. We can grow up again understanding our self-worth and accepting who we are with joy and contentment. He’s the father I never had on earth.
It’s very important to have a healthy self-image because it affects all that we do and whom we come in contact with. But instead of trying to find myself through someone else’s eyes, I look to Jesus. He’s my perfect example. I’m glad we don’t have to compete with the world’s standards anymore. We can like exactly who we are because Jesus created us in His likeness…in His image.