Sometimes… often, I just push and push myself without thinking of the effects it’s having on my emotions. With busy schedules and trying to serve those around me, I get pushed to the backburner a lot. Is it a bad thing to think of myself sometimes ?!
I hardly think so. For most of my life, I’ve put others before me and while they got what they wanted or needed, I was dying on the inside. At some point your body and mind say, “that’s enough!” God wants us to serve others but not at the expense of our own health.
Serving doesn’t mean slavery. There’s a huge difference. Not long ago, I made it up in my mind to distance myself from toxic people and what I mean by that is…if a person is sucking the life out of me yet but never gives back, never even asks how I’m doing…than that person is manipulating me. Healthy relationships are an equal give and take. Also, I decided to not take on more tasks than I know I can handle and that includes work.
People will work you to death if you let them. Setting boundaries are essential! I love sports and I’ve followed several such as tennis and golf. Roger Federer is my favorite tennis player and I love what he decided to do about his schedule. He’s 40 years old and typically most players consider retirement in their 30s. However, Roger still wants to play but in order to do that, he changed his schedule so that he only plays so many events ever year AND only if he’s in good enough physical and mental health to compete. Granted, he’s earned the privilege to have a shorter schedule, because he was #1 in the world for many years and has won so many tournaments. Still, I like that he’s put his family and health before his career. If he plays every event, not only will his body burn out, but he will too.
Do you feel like you’re going and going and going non-stop? Are you tired a lot? I mean physically and emotionally. If you are, stop and listen to your body. It will tell you to slow down or it will shut down. Take necessary time for yourself. If you can eliminate things, tasks, even people that are literally “killing you”, do that. If you can completely remove any of that, try to limit how much time you spend on these things or people. Stick to your plan that you are going to put yourself first when and where needed. This way, you and I can be present emotionally when it counts and we can feel better in our bodies too.