Stop Comparing!

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Growing up, I used to compare myself to other girls all the time and I confess that I still struggle with this today. I wasn’t happy with the way I looked, dressed, my figure, my hair, nothing!  

I’d look through fashion magazines wishing I could be one of the models on the covers. Even my self-worth was compromised by other people around me, cause I just didn’t trust my decisions. I was easily coerced and persuaded to go against my convictions. When I think about all the trouble I could have gotten in back then, I’m thankful The Lord was with me even when I didn’t know Him.

God doesn’t like for us to compare our life to another, it’s like telling Him that He made a mistake in how He made us. God doesn’t make mistakes. We each are born with a specific mindset, gifts, and though I may not look as pretty on the outside as another woman, that doesn’t mean I’m less than her or that she’s better than me.   

In life, we’ll always find somebody that’s more talented or even more physically attractive, but that doesn’t mean they have more value or we have less. So, I had to learn to love myself just as I am and embrace my flaws and focus on improving my inner qualities. I’m sure you know or knew someone that was flawless on the outside, but had or has a horrific personality and equally you know or knew someone not as physically attractive, but had or has the sweetest spirit. I’d rather be the latter. Wouldn’t you?

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Inner qualities far outweigh the physical. It is those traits that people remember and it’s those characteristics that bring with them many blessings. Physical is fleeting, inner is eternal. The outside is not who we really are anyway. When this body is gone, all that’s left is my spirit, I want to leave behind something that for years will still help somebody. That’s one reason The Bible is such an asset to us, because the many stories that are in it are pieces of people’s lives that were recorded so that we could have examples today to help us.

Don’t compare your life to another person’s just because it seems like on the outside they have it easy. No one has it easy. Yes, there are some that have an easier lifestyle than others, but believe me the grass is not greener on the other guy’s lawn. Sometimes, you might think that it is, you might even think you want what they have… and you might end up getting it only to find out the grass was greener, it wasn’t even green, it was burnt!    

God knows exactly where you are and where you should be. Let Him guide your life. Let Him use you to make a difference. When it’s all said and done, people will forget what you looked like, but they’ll never forget something you said or did that was instrumental in encouraging them. Now, isn’t that a legacy worth having?

Kim McDougal

Kim is the founder and creator of Growing Up in Grace. By day, she's the Director of Interactive Communications for the Hispanic chamber located in Jax, FL. Kim also owns "Beautiful Food Photography" and sells her handmade greeting cards and vintage art printables on Etsy.