I’m sure we all have parts of our lives we don’t like and wish we could change. And if the chance, might love to go back and make a different decision. I’m right there with you. However we can’t go back and change the past but we can change the future by what we do now.
Here’s some tips that seems to work for me:
- If I can’t change something, best to turn it over to The Lord. What’s the point of complaining about it? It wastes energy and keeps me upset. The best solution is to pray about it and leave it with The Lord. He is able to handle these tough situations so much better than I can.
- When I feel anxious, breathe. It’s really strange, but sometimes we do forget to breathe when we’re dealing with heavy stuff. I try to take deep breaths and that usually calms me down.
- Don’t beat myself up. Feelings are going to surface, I will get upset or worried…the key is not to let those feelings take total control and therefore affect my whole day. Also, brooding over mistakes for a long time is a “no-no”.
- Change what I can. Problems happen. If there’s something I can do to help get through a situation, then great. Otherwise, praying about it is the best solution.
- Do something fun. When do something creative, my mind is cleared. A few things I love to do is making handmade greeting cards, write and create artwork.
- Don’t compare myself to others or be jealous of what they have. There have been and are times when I wish my life would be easier like some of my friends. They don’t seem to struggle with the same things I do and from where I’m sitting it looks like they have it made.
But, the truth is…that’s rarely the case. I don’t know what it’s like for them when the doors are closed. And…they may have problems that I don’t have.
I find the grass is rarely greener on the other side. Besides, when blessings come our way, it sometimes means going through trials to get there. I may not want to go through what my neighbor had to go through to get where they’re at or to what they have.
Putting things in perspective means remaining thankful of what God has blessed us with. The other night I was listening to a sermon and the pastor said something like we may want a house but we live in an apartment…yet thank God we don’t live under a bridge even if the apartment living isn’t necessarily pleasant.
Truth is God loves a thankful heart, one that reaches out to him in the midst of our struggles and praises Him in our victories.