As a woman and wife, I want my man/husband to always be strong, courageous and upbeat. But, he’s human and he can’t always be that way for me. There are times when he needs to be vulnerable and not be afraid to be himself around me that I will lose faith in him. He relies on my affirmation and support of his decisions. He needs to know I will back him up because he listens to Jesus first. And, at the same time he knows he wants to be my anchor.
And, I need that anchor for sure and not just from God…but from my husband. One night, hubby took a stand. He came to me with power, strength, faith and courage just when I really needed it. I struggle a lot and feel shaky and nervous. God knows exactly what I need and exactly who I need it from.
I don’t idolize my hubby, but I sure am glad God sent him to me. If you’ve followed me at all, you know my first hubby died and I was widowed for about 11 years before I met and married Ken. No two men could be more different inside and out. Shron was interracial like me, Ken is Caucasian. Shron was outgoing and a people person, Ken is more quiet and reserved. Shron was quite tall, 6′ 9″ to be exact. Ken is almost 6′ 0″. But both love Jesus with their whole heart. And, they both loved me and my quirks too. I know I’m blessed.
I love how Ken and I balance each out. It’s like having a bodyguard all the time protecting you ensuring no one comes near you to do you harm. My hubby is quite protective of me and he makes me feel safe. We’re able to talk about anything even tough subjects that you might want to skip discussing. We know as a husband and wife team, we have to work on our relationship every day. Nothing worthwhile comes easy. Sometimes, there’s compromise, sacrifice and surrender. We do it because we love each other, we love The Lord and we value our relationship. Jesus also values his relationship with us and we need Him to be the center of our union.
I know it takes the supernatural faith in God to make things work and how can any relationship work if He’s not in it? Men and women are very different from how we look and dress to how our emotional makeup is. We communicate differently and we react to things differently.
Jesus must be the center of attention of any marriage in order for it to work. The moment one spouse gets selfish and begins thinking of themselves only, the enemy will come in and cause chaos. It’s an ongoing job to work at a relationship to keep it healthy. It takes effort on both husband wife to keep the marriage exciting and fulfilling, both must submit and surrender to God each and every day.