I’m sure we have situations in our lives we don’t care for. If we’re totally transparent, there’s things we don’t like or maybe even hate. Now, I don’t like to use the word, “hate” much because of its meaning but I can’t deny that I do say it a lot without even thinking.
So, in my heart I probably do hate some areas of my life. Today, I’m talking about how I’m trying to use the “hate word” less and how I’m handling the “less than perfect” areas in my life.
First off, our speech has so much meaning. Words hurt and help at the same time. So, the more positive we speak, the more positive we’ll experience. The opposite is true too.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21 NKJV
Here’s a short list of what I’ve learned and learning:
- If I can’t change something, best not to discuss it. What’s the point? It’s wasted energy. I’m so guilty of using up much time complaining and even entertaining bad thoughts over problems. You know what that does? It adds undue stress. The best solution is to pray about it and leave it with The Lord. He is able to handle these tough situations for me.
- When I feel anxious, breathe. It’s really strange, but sometimes we do forget to breathe when we’re dealing with stuff. I try to take deep breaths which calms me down.
- Don’t beat myself up. Feelings are going to surface, I will get upset or worried…the key is not to let those feelings overtake me and therefore affect my whole day. Best to move on as quickly as possible and brooding over mistakes for a long time doesn’t do anything good.
- Change what I can. For example, I don’t like my weight. In fact…dare I say it?…I hate my weight! But griping about it doesn’t change it. Only I can do something about it…so add in exercise, change my diet and be consistent with it. Over time, I will see and feel the results.
- Do something fun. When I let go and do something creative, it gets my mind off the negative. Plus, doing something enjoyable is fulfilling and therapeutic.
- Don’t compare myself to others or be jealous of what they have. There have been and are times when I wish my life would be easier like some of my friends. They don’t seem to struggle with the same things I do and from where I’m sitting it looks like they have it made. But, the truth is…that’s rarely the case. I don’t know what it’s like for them when the door’s closed. And…they may have problems that I don’t have. I found the grass is rarely greener on the other side. Besides, when blessings come our way, it means going through what it took to get there and I might not want to go through what my neighbor had to go through to get where they’re at or to get what they have.
Of course, this is a work in progress but all this year I’ve been working very hard to downsize, de-clutter, and let go of everything that I don’t need, don’t wear, don’t use, and don’t want. That includes emotional and mental strains. Getting back to basics actually helps, less stuff to be concerned about and less for me to think about!
The enemy wants us to park in bad spaces and it doesn’t give God praise. He may be working on some character development in me and the only way to come out more mature and with more trust is to go these struggles. I believe He’s teaching me to love what I don’t like so that I will be refined in the end and as David said in Psalm 62:6 put it… “I will not be moved”.