I’m convinced that most things in life comes down to choice. It’s my choice how I react to life’s troubles. There’s plenty of things I can do to cope with bad news, for one I can eat. I’ve done that. And even though it was delicious, it left me bloated, guilt-ridden, anxious, and empty in the end. So, that was NOT a good choice in the end.
Let me say, it’s OKAY, perfectly okay to have immediate reactions like fear, anger, sadness, cry for hours or stay in bed for a few days. That’s just normal. It’s after having adequate amount of time to digest the news where our choice of how to react matters.
Is there a better way to handle bad news? Absolutely! One sure way is to minister to somebody else especially if they’re going through the same thing or something similar. Doing so, helps us to love on someone else and receive the same while God is using the gifts He’s given us to reach out to another soul. Our focus isn’t on us, we’re not wallowing in pity or complaining and becoming bitter – none of which helps a situation nor ourselves.
I’ve heard the message about ministering to other hurting people when I’m hurting preached for years, but never understood it and honestly I didn’t believe it… till now. I was also saying to myself, “but you don’t know how bad this is for me” or “how I can give out to another person when I need help so badly?” But, this is the sacrifice of praise.
It’s in these low points, it’s where God does His best work. At that moment when I chose to put my problems down and focus on someone else, He made me feel better. Plus, that other person no longer has to feel like they’re all alone. It’s the best medicine for handling bad news.
And God may or may not change the outcome the way we want, but again it’s really important that we have a positive reaction no matter what, because He always knows what He’s doing. I’ve watched other people have incredible testimonies who are disabled or have gone through incredible trials and come out so happy, so grateful and their attitude is infectious!
I’ve received my share of bad news and not all the time was there something good that came out of it, but Jesus changed me on the inside to accept it and to move on. And, then 9 times out of 10, I’d meet someone that was going through the exact same thing I just overcame and I got to pray with and encourage them.
There’s a big blessing when we reach out to encourage another person who’s also hurting. And, I think that’s the best way to handle bad news.