I was obsessed with looking good in my twenties. I spent countless hours in the mirror primping and prodding. I wanted my eyeliner and lipstick perfect. I wanted my hair in place. It was a no-no to be seen outside without any makeup on in my mind. Oh what stress that was and the pressure to measure up…and to what? Well, I was young and wanted attention.
Now, I’m in my late fifties and it’s a different world. I don’t know why it takes so long to figure out that a lot of things we kill ourselves over is really vanity. I guess it takes this long to really chill out!
It doesn’t mean I’m not concerned with wrinkles, gray hair, dry skin, and weak bones…I do care about how I look. I’m just not as concerned as I used to be. What I’m learning from The Lord is that He’s seeking that inner beauty. And no make-up or beauty treatment in the world can hide inner ugliness.
I have exceptionally dry skin so I use a special lotion to combat that. I also dress for work even thought I work from home. I love my wardrobe. I’ve been blessed with some really nice clothes. And, sometimes, I experiment with different hairstyles, but it’s fun now rather than a daily ritual. I don’t miss those hours in the mirror and if a pimple pops up on my nose, I don’t freak out anymore!
The difference today than back then is outer beauty isn’t my idol or biggest priority. I’d rather spend my time improving inner qualities: impatience, frustration, fears, selfishness, control issues, attitude, etc. These are the things God looks at most. He wants our souls to be beautiful. After all the body is just an outer layering which goes back to the dust after we’re gone.
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. ~ (Proverbs 31:30 KJV)
As we seek to please The Lord every day, He wants to see the fruits of the Holy Spirit coming out through us. He’s transforms the heart so that people see Him in us.
Let us not seek vain things exclusively. Putting everything in moderation is the key. It’s fine to be concerned over our outer appearance but even more so our inner selves. What people will remember most about us is how we made them feel, those things last forever when beauty fades away.