Ever had a bad day or a bad week? It’s easy to bounce back but how a bad year? Or even a few bad years? How does one come back to normal?
When I went through four deaths in my immediate family, all within 1 to 2 years of each other, I thought my whole world had fallen apart. I didn’t have time to catch my breath before the next tragedy was upon me. I knew a few years after my first husband’s death (he was the 4th in my list), I needed to seek professional help.
But sometimes it’s not a tragedy that makes us feel we’re backed against the wall, it can be a life change: ex., having a baby, moving cross country, starting a new job, moving to a new city/state, recovering from surgery, etc.
I’ll share with you 10 tips that helped me. Granted, I’m not a doctor or counselor, so if you’re having severe depression and/or suicidal thoughts, I urge you to seek professional help ASAP.
Here’s 10 tips that have helped me rebound:
- Take the necessary time to grieve. This is important especially if you’re dealing with a death of a loved one. We need the time to cry, to remember and to say goodbye. We all grieve differently. But with that said, try not to let the grief prolong or take control over you. Long-term grieving could be the sign of a serious condition.
- Don’t isolate yourself. This one might be hard but even having a short coffee date with a friend helps the healing process and cuts down on the anxiety.
- Talk to God. This is vital. Because it is through Jesus that He will heal our broken hearts, touch our fears, and helps us along. Find good and uplifting scriptures and say them aloud every day. The heart will follow the words we say.
- Get involved. I think it is good to go to some social functions even if you’re uncomfortable in certain settings. Be safe doing this with the pandemic going on so even it’s a small function, it still helps to be amongst others.
- Take a coffee break. Find a place in your house to sit down and take a break. I suggest sitting outdoors or near a window so you can be near nature and the sun.
- Treat yourself. Do something special for yourself. It could be as simple as getting an ice-cream sundae and eating it in a park. Maybe do something you’ve never done before but always wanted to do.
- Talking to a friend. Talking about my feelings was essential, because I was on the brink of a nervous breakdown. It helped to have a friend who just listened and allow me to get all my emotions out. And praying together was also comforting. It is a good thing to have someone in your corner who loves and cares about you.
- Seek professional help if necessary. When I was grieving over the loss of my first husband, I sought professional help from my pastor and his wife when I was living in Florida. I knew that I was grieving a long time and couldn’t seem to come out of the depression. But by seeking their help, I was able to make small steps to move forward.
- Move around. Get some exercise. Don’t want to forget that! Just a 15-minute walk everyday will do your mind and body good.
- Pick up a hobby. Do you like to draw, craft or work in your garden? Maybe you love to read. Having something to do that’s fun can really help improve your mood and relax you.
Our lives can change at any moment and we can’t handle everything alone. It’s not wrong to admit when we need help.
That’s why Jesus gives us His spirit to enable us to do what we could never do for ourselves. He gives us friends to go side by side through this journey with and He gives us professionals that can help through medicine, dietary and nutritional assistance and through discussions.